It is with great grief that I write this particular article.
Last year,around this time, I experienced an unimaginable loss of a wonderful and dear person. Today,I hear of the death of a young woman my age,whom I knew during my childhood days.
These two make the bases of my write up today.
A question I asked myself,I will ask you all now!
Who really knows what will happen to him or her the next minute? If you know,kudos to you!
Then,I can bet with my life that no human being,not even the greatest scientist nor magician can predict tomorrow correctly.
We rule our lives,but we are not owners of our lives.
We can only control what happens in our lives but not what happens to our lives!
We can rule the world but we cannot control the world and what befalls it!
That's why rain falls as it pleases,sun shines when it feels like,hurricanes blow our cities up as they deem fit and death sweeps people off the earth,not minding the age,status or family it visits.
So let's stop behaving like we know tomorrow or we control the world for it's only the Creator of tomorrow,our lives,the future and the universe that understands and knows what happens next.
That's why we have to live our lives not only to please us but also to please him,God Almighty!
Let's live our lives like it is our last!
I don't mean it like the naive men will say,when they are about to knock their brains out with loud music,fast lanes and bottles of intoxicating drinks.
I mean every aspect of our lives.Let's use wisdom in everything,with the knowledge that we can leave this world anytime.
Our only prayer is when that does happen,let our lives be in tune with what has been written in the Holy Book.
I am not being religious because I hate to be,but I am being realistic.
Whether you choose to believe me or not,that's the actual fact!
Imagine someone whose being diagnosed of cancer with metastases every part of her body and she has only five minutes to live,how she will behave and things she will do?
Imagine someone moving free and screaming out loud,only to be stopped by someone,who tells him he has only two days to live?
How about you or me,who doesn't even know when it will happen to us?
That means everyday we wake up to see another dawning of the day,we should be thankful and as we've had set goals,let's be mindful of our characters,our reactions,our thoughts,our deeds,our entrances and exits,for even the difference between a good and bad day,is our behavior!
Go about your life,like it is nobody's damn business but don't forget that God and death cares what you do with it!
Wednesday, 3 December 2014
It is with great grief that I write this particular article.
Saturday, 8 November 2014
Sunday, 24 August 2014
Tuesday, 22 July 2014
Thursday, 3 July 2014
Friday, 27 June 2014
Tuesday, 17 June 2014
Tuesday, 3 June 2014
From whence i go to whence i come,
Ukraine,i have made my home, and Nigeria,my motherland;
Their waves are slapping the world from left to right,
leaving behind misery and fear in the hearts of the lot remaining!
The cries of the populace only increase the thirst of those who inflict pain on us!!!
They go by such names as boko haram,separatists and pro-russians controlled by oligarchs and top-notch government officials,who perpetrate their selfish acts in the quest for more power and control.
They are above the law,
Genocides,raping,kidnapping,and bombing have become acts of pleasure!
While others go to bed with their eyes wide open,for fear of being murdered in their sleep,
these terrorists go back to sleep in peace as they have gained impunity!
With their egos raised,and pride elevated,they clothe their ill-nurtured bodies with worn out khakis,
and drink from the fountain of rejoicing,
as the concerns and creases of deep frowns from the american government increase with every single day of unrest!
lest i forget the period hash tags from american celebrities brought more meaning to their miserable selves!
Separatist,rest your vodka- filled heads!
Boko haram gangsters, rest your ugly heads!
Government,take charge,for when the northern states' occupants in Nigeria,and eastern region of Ukraine,are no more,your heads shall be their next request!
I hear prophesies from different church denominations, of what will become of my nation,Nigeria but i don"t hear of these denominations organizing corporate prayer sessions.
These situations have passed human hands,
what we need is a divine intervention from above!
I pray for all these to come and go,without any of us burnt or gone with them!
I can only watch,pray and excel!
There is so much stacking up against us,
and we are running out of time;
But,if we beat against the wild wind,i promise we would be fine!
Let's fill our hearts with what is important and be done with the rest,
For there is not much to do at the moment than to cross our fingers ,and pray that everything will once again be normal!!!!!!!!!
Wednesday, 28 May 2014
Sunday, 11 May 2014
By Lori Alexander (ALWAYS LEARNING)
Sunday, 27 April 2014
Quotes from others on this;
Mark Twain;Comparison is the death of joy!
Shannon Alden;Personality begins where comparison leaves off!
Oprah;keep a gratitude journal so if C.I,C syndrome hits you,you can open and read it to see how far you have come!
I have read,understood, learnt from them,and i have my on take on this.
ME;When stories of others'success are being told,listen with your ears and be happy for them.Keep your eyes fixed on the road to yours and appreciate how far you have come.If you are tempted so much to take your eyes off the road to look at others",close your eyes and count your blessings!!!!!!!
A C.I.C syndrome patient;
There was a time she used to be the youngest in her class and she couldn't help but wonder what the rest of the class were doing with their lives,which ended each of them in the same class as she.
As she graduated and went into the university,she realized there were students way younger than her in the same class as she.She began to ponder and wonder what happened to her life that made her to be in the same class as them.She became sad,intimidated and gradually,C.I.C syndrome set in.
Now,she failed to realize she was living her life like everyone else did theirs,just not on the same path!Everyone has a different path to take in life.Not withstanding what speed or direction,all we need to do is to stay on track.You need not compare your life to others',otherwise,you lose focus,get discouraged,become impatient, too sure of yourself(pride),or even fall off the wagon!
Another instance, you never think of yourself as beautiful as others when you take a group picture.Stop taking group pictures until you have learnt to appreciate yourself.Discover your inner beauty and your outer charm.Stop comparing yourself to others,for while you don't like how you look,someone else is wishing to look like you.If you are hell-bent on making a change,let it be from you and because of you.If it is because of others,you will never think or feel you are good enough no matter how much you try.
My Cure;Close your eyes and count your blessings!!!!!!!!!!
Friday, 25 April 2014
I hopped into my truck and sped off on a journey which i am hoping would give me closure.
I reached out to the police once again for assistance,but the D.P.O warned me never to call that line again,and all the memories i carried within me kept me on track and with even more zest for truth and discovery!
After many miles of driving,i was finally at my destination,i moved into a motel to plot on how to trap the man in the red hood.
I laid on my back and watched the ceiling,drawing imaginary circles with the movement of my eyeballs!
I sighed,took a peep through the window and saw it was raining heavily.Despite the heavy downpour,i went outside and let the rain soak me till my clothes hugged my body and i started shivering with my teeth grinding against one another.I was standing there for a while,lost in my thoughts and suddenly,my eyes wandered across the road,there laid an unconscious little girl with a boy clinging to her and in his eyes were tears and helplessness.She was struck down by a hit and run driver.He called out to me.'Help,my sister is dying!'
The next i remember,i was at the emergency section of a hospital,pacing and waiting for a doctor to say something to me.
'Are you miss Steven?', a young doctor asked.'Yes,is the little girl okay?,i asked.
'She's stable,and a bit broken but she will make it out alive!'
I heaved a sigh of relief and went to see the girl.I kissed her forehead and was about leaving,when i sighted a familiar face,the boy with some stranger at the nurse"s counter.
'What is your name,sir please?",I overheard the nurse asking the stranger.
'I'm James Stanley"!Suddenly,the name rang a bell and the next i knew i was calling out the name.
'I am Jennifer,Jennifer Wilson"
'Jen?oh my God!!'
We hugged,and he explained to me, the kids were his next-door-neighbor,presently living with their granny.
That moment made me a few steps closer to meeting the guy in the red hood.I got to know where James lived,and we started spending time together.One day,he asked,'what is wrong?,what happened to that little girl who was so hopeful,writing beautiful stories about how her life will be?"
Then i replied,with tears in my eyes,'That girl died'.
He shook his head and began to tell me his story.He was fighting for his life,waiting on both kidneys' transplant.However,he was still hopeful and full of life
With each passing day,i got closer and closer to James .And one day,i came face to face with him.I was all about revenge,but i found the truth about my late husband"s death,peace and closure.i found hope and love.
Hope saved my life.I started a journey to find revenge but in the end i experienced peace that surpassed human"s understanding.
I am living and believing because life is so beautiful and magical,full of possibilities.
My friend helped me find what i lost long time ago,i did not feel alone anymore.Love is a powerful magical feeling and nothing can take that away.
Hope you learn from this story as i did!
I learnt there are other things more lasting,and more fulfilling than revenge!love conquers all things!
Friday, 11 April 2014
Saturday, 29 March 2014
Sunday, 23 March 2014
When it comes to your dreams and aspirations,
Say no to rejection!
In between small beginnings and great attained heights,will come criticism,scorn,mockery,despondency, frustrations and some other bad stuffs that will do no justice to your person.
Do not be negative through this period,for the worst enemy to you can be you!
Remember,a 'no' response is a step away from a "yes" response!
Sunday, 16 March 2014
Tuesday, 11 February 2014
Wednesday, 5 February 2014
A month known for love;we all want to(including myself) be loved,appreciated and taken seriously at some point in our lives,but we tend to forget the confusion we put those who wish to do that for us!I learnt something today from a very resourceful man of God;about what we say we are, not matching up with what we do,if you understand what i mean!
We have to define who we are not only with our lips but also with our feet,,,,both have to be in the same direction;
That way, we do not confuse ourselves and others.People get to see us just the way we are without any form of confusion,the appreciation and respect following suit.
Be your own kind of person and mean it,,,even the devil will be afraid of you!!!!!!
HAPPY NEW MONTH once more,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,remain sweet and steady as always!!!!!!!
Wednesday, 29 January 2014
to see the good in people always and not to judge their bad,
to learn from their mistakes ,and not follow their paths,
to respect their opinions even when i am in total opposition to them,
to love them and not to please them,
to help them and not be envious of them,
to appreciate what they have and not be intimidated by their acquisitions,
so help me God!!!!!!
Thursday, 23 January 2014
just when you think it is up,it goes down;
You can never be sure of its turnings;
Life never waits for you to be well,
it gives you so much pleasure and yet,
so much pain;
It gives you a whole lot of reasons to rejoice,
but stabs you in the back,causing you so much grief;
As life keeps moving,keep moving as well;
Don't try to take your life because life
did not treat you kind;
For your information;you are not a target,
life hates no one neither has no favorites!
Stop wasting time,life will not wait for you!
Even the tiniest moment of uncertainty
can cause you something in life;
Also,life is not in a hurry;it moves at its own pace!
You can only move ahead of people, not ahead of life,
Do not be hasty in decision making,
for most times,life decides after we must have made mistakes;
Life gives us multiple choices,yet,it does not wait too long for us to choose.
I often hear people exclaim with a sigh,
'Hmmm,that is life for you!!!!'
Whilst i agree to disagree with them,
i still believe it takes one who sees with the eye of an eagle,
to understand and prosper in the affairs of LIFE!!!!!!!!
Inspired by my late uncle!!!!!!!!!!!