How a winner faces failure!

A winner understands he needs to fail at something to know what works for him,in order to succeed in everything!

He looks failure in the face and doesn't react badly,because he understands failure is only temporary.

He interprets failure to mean a setback,that something is re-aligning him for far greater opportunity!

He understands the period he failed,is the only period he will ever fail,so he makes use of the spare time to learn more about himself,discover other skills and appreciate inventions,yet another opportunity to gain power,for knowledge is power!

He doesn't get worried,he fixes what was wrong,so he is not left behind!

He dresses himself as a warrior; a helmet of determination,a spear of faith,a pair of persistent boots,an armor of resilience and clothes of expectation,understanding that against all odds of failure,he must succeed,even if it means,he has to try severally!

Words and the tongue

 Words are like eggs dropped from great heights;

Tongues are those great heights from which words are dropped;

They are either wagging or wise!

Words have power,when spoken through the tongue,carry meanings in diversity!

Words can kindle fire in the minds of men,so can it melt the hardest of hearts!

Be mindful of your spoken words,they can haunt you forever,so are conceived words,which are being interpreted as thoughts!

Don't say words you don't mean.

Don't say something just because you want to feel good!

The wisdom behind spoken words is time!

Always understand there is time for everything!

There is a time for tease and a time for tears!

Time for smiles and time for sorrows!

Words should be spoken according to their time frames!

Remember,words are pale shadows of forgotten names!

They can bring justification and also,condemnation;

They can give birth to creation and also provoke convulsions!

They can ignite indignation and can also bring men to their knees!

They can become your testimony or your stigmas !

Be quick to hear but slow to speak,my dear friends!

For words spoken in haste do end up in regret!

THE MIRROR EFFECT!!!!!

Admire others and make them the measure behind how large a mirror you need to get to view yourself!
Let the success of others be an encouragement to you and that path of yours,it should be a stepping stone to your greatness but not the path on which you must tread!
The way you admire others makes you crave such admiration from others,I know,don't let it consume you.
Being consumed by such thoughts and longings,create unwanted loopholes for jealousy.
Who you see in the mirror when you look is yourself,how you pose in front of it determines the effect it gives you!
The appreciation and make overs you do to your life will make you understand how far you have come with making you look good in the mirror.
The larger the mirror the larger the view!Don't waste such large views looking at others!Be happy for others!Let them shine!Do your own thing and have fun whilst at it.Let their shine inspire you,and not to make you perspire!
Rejoice for them and tap into their blessings,be positive that yours is just around the corner.
Envy no one!The simple trick behind you getting yours sooner than you expected,is feeling good about your neighbor"s success!!

When hopelessness shows up at your doorstep!

There is a naughty friend of ours that never stops creeping up on us!

He comes around when we are always up to something good in our lives,especially the really difficult tasks of them all!

Just when we need to put in all we have got,he comes knocking on our doors.And when it seems he's been ignored by us,he finds his way through the window or the back door.He never gives up until he's done what he came to do,which is dropping his little ones,discouragement,disappointment and rejection,for us to baby-sit.

And this really happens when we couldn't get the first task right or we missed out on the first opportunity,he makes us baby sit in misery!We shut our doors and windows, for fear of the mosquitoes of opportunity,because we think we cannot handle just another task again in our lives,as the first one was a disaster.

And thus our lives,we live in misery,pain,and regret for hopelessness will never visit us again,to pick up his little ones from our houses.We start wishing we were stronger to ward him off, the first time he visited us with those kids.

Hey,don't fret!Life doesn't have to be that way for you,because I know deep down you,you want to try again!What you need to do,is toss discouragement,disappointment and rejection,out of your home.Ouch!i know it feels you are mean,as they are just kids.You have to be tough because they are no good for you,and for all it's worth,hopelessness doesn't care anymore!He is going about his own business without a care for those notorious three.

There's a friend just across the road,he will make you not feel bad about doing so.His name is determination,the son of success and reward.He will take you to meet his parents and you will never know what it means to meet hopelessness anymore.I know the road to his parents'house is bumpy and like a roller coaster,but you don't have to suffer through it,you can make it fun for you and take what you meet on the road in faith,so you have a story to tell when you get to your destination,my dear friend!

This is a lesson for you and me.Refuse to worry about what you cannot control!If it's out of your control,why fret about it?Don't be faithless,be believing,for a winner must first know what it's like to lose!

The true definition of a rare gem!

Nowadays,the use of the words rare gem to describe a figure in the society, or loved ones gone in their biography notes, cannot be over-emphasized!

Agreed,every human being has his or her own unique quality that distinguishes him or her from the rest  of the world,thereby making that person uncommon.

Do we really understand the qualities of a rare gem?

Do we realize that our characters in life should be related with the attributes of a rare gem?

Twelve precious stones were mentioned as foundations of the wall of the new Jerusalem.The characters of each,i will emulate!

Gemstone 1;JASPER

Jasper is the first of the twelve foundation stones!

It is opaque,fine-grained of dense variety of the silica chert.It has variety of colors, ranging from brick red to reddish brown,yellow,green and black.For thousands of years,black jasper was used to test gold-silver-alloys for their gold content.Legends have it that jasper brings joy and happiness to lives!

Can your life be a true picture of example for others to

 follow? 

Can you be a role model to others?

Do you bring joy to yourself,your family or the society?

Do you light up the faces of people?

Like black jasper,Jesus Christ will test our labor and service for gold on the last day!

The things that haunt us the most!

Life is about choices. Some we regret, some were proud of. Some will haunt us forever.

And this, our life, exempt from public haunt, finds tongues in trees, books in the running brooks, sermons in stones, and good in everything.

There is no refuge from memory and remorse in this world. The spirits of our foolish deeds haunt us, with or without repentance.

Humans have a huge capacity to carry pain and sadness. There are things that haunt us our entire lives; we are unable to let them go. The good times seem almost effervescent and dreamlike in comparison with the times that didn't go so well or as anticipated!

A lot of people, when they say 'forgive and forget,' they think you completely wash your brain out and forget everything. That is not the concept. What I think is you forgive and you forget so you can transform your experiences, not necessarily forget them but transform them, so that they don't haunt you or handicap you or kill you.

And as a true athlete, mistakes haunt you forever.

Much of the stress and emptiness that haunt us can be traced back to our lack of attention to beauty. Internally, the mind becomes coarse and dull if it remains unvisited by images and thoughts that hold the radiance of beauty.

Exceptionally hard decisions can deplete your energy to the point at which you finally cave in. If you mentally crumble and degenerate into negative thinking, you'll magnify the problem to the point where it can haunt you.

Don't ignore the past,but deal with it,on your own pace.Once you deal with it,you are free of it!

You will be free to embrace your life and be a happy loving person because if you don't,the past will come back TO haunt and keep coming back to haunt you!

The names we call ourselves or give to our children go a long way in influencing our lives or that of our children!They have deeper meanings and reflect in our day to day lives.Choose wisely!My name is Rhoda and below are the meanings that go with it!It deeply reflects my life,if not all of it,most of it!

Greek Meaning:

SoulUrge Number: 7

People with this name have a deep inner need for quiet, and a desire to understand and analyze the world they live in, and to learn the deeper truths.

Expression Number: 1

People with this name tend to initiate events, to be leaders rather than followers, with powerful personalities. They tend to be focused on specific goals, experience a wealth of creative new ideas, and have the ability to implement these ideas with efficiency and determination. They tend to be courageous and sometimes aggressive. As unique, creative individuals, they tend to resent authority, and are sometimes stubborn, proud, and impatient.

The name Rhoda in the Bible

Rhoda is a servant girl who works for Mary the mother of JohnMark. She famously refrains from opening the door for the callingPeter, after the angel of the Lord has freed him from prison (Acts 12:13). When she runs in to say that Peter's at the door, the others snarl at her and say she's mad. It may be that Rhoda was under orders not to open the door for anyone because the Christians were afraid for persecution.

Etymology of the name Rhoda

The name Rhoda is identical to the common Greek noun ροδη(rhode), meaning rose-tree or rose-bush. The word for a single rose is ροδον (rhodon), from whence comes our word rhododendron, literally meaning rose-tree, and the name of the color red. It may be that for the Greeks the name Ροδος (Rodhes, the island) sounded like Rose Place (although the name actually may come from the Phoenician word for snake, says the Encyclopedia Britannica).

Some related words are ροδιτης (rhodites), meaning rose-flavored;ροδοκροος (rhodokroos), meaning rose-colored; and the delightfully imaginative word ροδοκολπος (rodokolpos), meaning rosy-bosomed.

Rhoda meaning

The name Rosa means Rose-Bush or Rose-Tree. 

The name Rhoda is a Greek baby name. In Greek the meaning of the name Rhoda is:Rose.

The name Rhoda is a baby girl name.

CHANGE OR FRINGE?

Is it indeed a time for change or a time for fringe?

From where I am looking,Nigeria is on a ledge.

Never could have asked for a better election conduct in a country as rugged as ours!

Never in the history of democracy in this nation,has an incumbent government been voted out of office!

All things work together for good right?

I don't feel comfortable with this change until I have seen what it holds in the months unfolding,because we don't know what awaits us.

While we toss the coin of change about,

in our chants and jubilations,let's not forget there are always two sides to every coin! 

 While I don't understand why we should be jubilating and dancing to the tunes of a man ,who is close to kicking the bucket,I must congratulate our incumbent president for his simplicity and youth,"youth",i emphasize in comparison to the one replacing him.Yet,Nigeria is not a country to be ruled by simplicity and soft rebuke.She needs tougher hands and stronger backbones ,which Buhari might want to boast of,as he is more of an advantage when it comes to toughness.As careful and mindful as Jonathan was,he still ended up being wrapped in the web of confusion by the complicated nation and back-stabbing subordinates around him.

After all has been said and done,I still pray for a better nation,where every man will deserve what he's got,where we will be ruled by a better government,when a better tomorrow becomes the best now.

Our destiny lie within our hands,for we are the architects of our very own downfall,as well as our victory!

The thing about patience!

Genuine patience makes no exception

It greets all,

It is kind to all,

It speaks to all,

It serves all,

It forgives injuries,

It is generous in alms giving !

Patience is understanding,

It is prone to forbearance,

It is kind in fraternal correction!

Patience is prudent,

delicate,cautious,

circumspective!

In order for us to be able to love people and be loved by them,

we must train ourselves in gentleness,humility and PATIENCE!

This mischief I wonder!!!

It is with great grief that I write this particular article.
Last year,around this time, I experienced an unimaginable loss of a wonderful and dear person. Today,I hear of the death of a young woman my age,whom I knew during my childhood days.
These two make the bases of my write up today.
A question I asked myself,I will ask you all now!
Who really knows what will happen to him or her the next minute? If you know,kudos to you!
Then,I can bet with my life that no human being,not even the greatest scientist nor magician can predict tomorrow correctly.
We rule our lives,but we are not owners of our lives.
We can only control what happens in our lives but not what happens to our lives!
We can rule the world but we cannot control the world and what befalls it!
That's why rain falls as it pleases,sun shines when it feels like,hurricanes blow our cities up as they deem fit and death sweeps people off the earth,not minding the age,status or family it visits.
So let's stop behaving like we know tomorrow or we control the world for it's only the Creator of tomorrow,our lives,the  future and the universe that understands and knows what happens next.
That's why we have to live our lives not only to please us but also to please him,God Almighty!
Let's live our lives like it is our last!
I don't mean it like the naive men will say,when they are about to knock their brains out with loud music,fast lanes and bottles of intoxicating drinks.
I mean every aspect of our lives.Let's use wisdom in everything,with the knowledge that we can leave this world anytime.
Our only prayer is when that does happen,let our lives be in tune with what has been written in the Holy Book.
I am not being religious because I hate to be,but I am being realistic.
Whether you choose to believe me or not,that's the actual fact!
Imagine someone whose being diagnosed of cancer with metastases every part of her body and she has only five minutes to live,how she will behave and things she will do?
Imagine someone moving free and screaming out loud,only to be stopped by someone,who tells him he has only two days to live?
How about you or me,who doesn't even know when it will happen to us?
That means everyday we wake up to see another dawning of the day,we should be thankful and as we've had set goals,let's be mindful of our characters,our reactions,our thoughts,our deeds,our entrances and exits,for even the difference between a good and bad day,is our behavior!
Go about your life,like it is nobody's damn business but don't forget that God and death cares what you do with it!

SPARKLING OUR LIVES!: Pride vs humility!!!

SPARKLING OUR LIVES!: Pride vs humility!!!: The sayings "pride comes before a fall"and "humility is a true test of one's patience"are both expressive in their o...

Pride vs humility!!!

The sayings "pride comes before a fall"and "humility is a true test of one's patience"are both expressive in their own ways.

 Pride makes you  think you are already up there.When you are up there,it is very difficult and somewhat impossible for you to see what's above you.You are not even able to see below you and it's only a matter of time before you fall off.

The moment you get to thinking you can do everything you want to or you are better than other people,it's only a matter of time before you start making mistakes and destructions that comes with pride,thus following. 

 Pride is an inwardly directed emotion that carries two common meanings.With a negative connotation,pride refers to an inflated sense of one's personal status or accomplishments,synonymous with hubris.With a positive connotations,pride refers to a satisfied sense of attachment toward one's own or another's choices and actions or towards a whole group of people.

However,as human beings,you need a lot of care and caution to be taken into consideration and ability to put your ears to the ground.

 Pride can be a virtue but when it becomes a vice,it I'd often termed vanity or vain glory,which had sent many men to their early and unfortunate downfall.

Humility,on the other hand,helps you see both what's above and beneath you.It gives a clear cut view of life and its contents.

Humility needed not to be over emphasized ,as every man born of a woman,achieves a lot through subjecting himself to humility.

It mustn't be imposed on anyone as when it is done,it is no longer humility but humiliation.The concept of humility addresses intrinsic self-worth,relationship,socialization as well as perspective.

"Acting with humility does not in anyway deny our own self worth,rather,it affirms the inherent worth of all person,"quoted from the Christian Bible Reference Site.

I took time out this week to study both pride and humility in their various positive and negative connotations .

Pride limits us and prevents us from becoming best and extraordinary or worthy to look upon by others,for we've already praised ourselves, raised our shoulders high,and dusted off what others might think,even at the expense of others.

Humility,on the other hand,helps us by giving room for us to become better and better everyday,without oppressing others in the process.

I choose humility,I pray you do the same.

Flying on eagle's wings(arising on your gentleness to become great)!

My confession today:I will control myself,no matter the situation I find myself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

   

Being silent and gentle and letting God fight all your battles is the wisest strategy to winning.When you ride on the eagle'wings,not carrying any excess luggage ranging from hatred,bitterness,

unforgiveness,and troubles of this world you will land not only safely but on greatness.

When you confess anything,let it come from your heart,so when you are asked from now onwards,how you are doing,simply reply by saying,'I am great!'

 When people are expecting you to spit fire,smile and remain silent.Don't contribute in ridiculing others and laughing at their weaknesses.Only failures do that,don't join them!

 Don't let the spirit of bitterness spring forth from you and don't let anger rip you off the eagle's back.Hold your head up high,no matter how tough the road is,you wll get there.we will get there!

Choose your VIP not your VOJ(in courtesy of Our Daily Manna)

I was very privileged to read our daily manna during the regular family devotion session today.I learnt a lot and decided to share.VOJ is described as Voice Of Judgement.This voice drives us into condemning our selves,even before anyone does.Hmm,self discovery is good.The moment we discover or recognize our VOJ,the better for us as individuals.At some point,we have been guilty of this particular crime of self-condemnation and self-criticism,forgetting that we are only humans,hence our imperfections.No one should even think others are better than them by mere eye-wandering,for there is more to what we see.Everyone has his or her own imperfections,we are only perfect in God.

 I learnt that VOJ comes from the accuser whom we refer to as the devil.We have to learn to silence that voice which keeps telling us we are not good enough.Simply recognizing the voice,we have broken the spell of self-hatred and self-contempt.We should remember that every new day we see,is yet another opportunity to right our wrongs and be better.

I am not perfect,you are not perfect and no man is above mistakes!Only, we have to be willing to listen to instructions,being careful not to make the same mistakes we did in the time past.

 No matter what is happening to you,self acceptance is the key to inner peace.Forgive yourself and move on with your life,leaving behind anything that will kill your joy.Be honest with yourself,we can't change certain things about ourselves,like our parents,our heights,our origin,all the injustices around you.The only thing we are capable of changing is how we let these circumstances define us or how we think about them.Do we take them as obstacles,challenges or sources of victory?

 Don't hate or beat yourself up,the fact that you recognize your wrongdoings and you're feeling remorseful is enough.Dust yourself up and aim at making a better record.

 Discover your VIP(voice of inspiration and praise) and get used to it.Reject the VOP and build the VIP.God help us all!!!

A true definition of class!!!

Four freaking fabulous f's I learnt today!!!!

1.Forget the past.

2.Face the present.

3.Find a purpose.

4. Focus on the future.

Bite a little more stronger and deeper!

The canine teeth are specially made as weapons to tear any food worth tearing but I was too afraid to use them very well.I usually soil my clothes with meat particles and mess my face with the dressing.I didn't know that biting stronger and deeper on my food would make me chew properly and neatly.

 One barbecue afternoon, watching people around me having no difficulty in tearing and chewing on meat,I decided to go a little deeper and stronger.The surprise that met me was really refreshing. I was able to chew well and neatly without soiling my clothes.I know you are wondering what this gas to do with anything.Hold on!      

Everyone in the world had this notion that super eagles football team of Nigeria are incapable of break through this FIFA World Cup 2014 season,but I observed the determination and efforts in their last match played against Argentina.They got better and played more like a stronger team.This explains the phrase 'anything is possible'.

I will like to add to that phrase,'anything is possible when you push a little stronger,bite a little deeper, play a little harder.

     

How to know you are still relevant to someone!

1.He still gets mad at you!

2.He still gets worked up by you!

3.He is worried when he hasn't seen or spoken to you in a while!

4;He tries to get you out to safety when there's trouble !

He refers to both male and female !

And just because he desires you doesn't mean he values you!!!!!

MY PRESENT SITUATION

I live amid crises,which leave me unsatisfied at their best!
From whence i go to whence i come,
Ukraine,i have made my home, and Nigeria,my motherland;
Their waves are slapping the world from left to right,
leaving behind misery and fear in the hearts of the lot remaining!
The cries of the populace only increase the thirst of those who inflict pain on us!!!
They go by such names as boko haram,separatists and pro-russians controlled by oligarchs and top-notch government officials,who perpetrate their selfish acts in the quest for more power and control.
They are above the law,
Genocides,raping,kidnapping,and bombing have become acts of pleasure!
While others go to bed with their eyes wide open,for fear of being murdered in their sleep,
these terrorists go back to sleep in peace as they have gained impunity!
With their egos raised,and pride elevated,they clothe their ill-nurtured bodies with worn out khakis,
and drink from the fountain of rejoicing,
as the concerns and creases of deep frowns from the american government increase with every single day of unrest!
Oh yeah!
lest i forget the period hash tags from american celebrities brought more meaning to their miserable selves!
Separatist,rest your vodka- filled heads!
Boko haram gangsters, rest your ugly heads!
Government,take charge,for when the northern states' occupants in Nigeria,and eastern region of Ukraine,are no more,your heads shall be their next request!
I hear prophesies from different church denominations, of what will become of my nation,Nigeria but i don"t hear of these denominations organizing corporate prayer sessions.
 These situations have passed human hands,
 what we need is a divine intervention from above!
I pray for all these to come and go,without any of us burnt or gone with them!
I can only watch,pray and excel!
There is so much stacking up against us,
and we are running out of time;
But,if we beat against the wild wind,i promise we would be fine!
Let's fill our hearts with what is important and be done with the rest,
For there is not much to do at the moment than to cross our fingers ,and pray that everything will once again be normal!!!!!!!!!
                                RHODA PETER

One of my future special days is here

 Did I not tell you all 

this day will surely come?

Last year,I wrote about someone else"s day 

And now I'm alive to write about mine.

I hope you are all happy for me,

Indeed,one good turn deserves another!

Am I not fit to wear the rope?

Am I not fit to fix the cape?

Am I not fit to dance around with my cap,flying its tail,according to the rhythm of the music my body produces?

Am I not fit to blow the trumpets and order the drums to talk really loud for a job well done?

Oh yes,I am!

Even if I can't hear you loud and clear,

As such you do is mumble under your breath ,

The birds in the sky are singing a victory song,in harmony and excitement for me.

The trees of the field are clapping their hands and leaping for joy

The heavens are rejoicing on my behalf

The tails of horny dogs are swinging in satisfaction!

I have fought a good fight 

And I have finished gallantly!

 I wait today for the long anticipated handshake from the rector of L.S.M.U,

to congratulate and say to me,"you are now a university graduate,Dr.Rhoda!!"

Hey you! 

Don't drag nor be envious of anyone,be patient ,your time will soon come!