One of my future special days is here

 Did I not tell you all 

this day will surely come?

Last year,I wrote about someone else"s day 

And now I'm alive to write about mine.

I hope you are all happy for me,

Indeed,one good turn deserves another!

Am I not fit to wear the rope?

Am I not fit to fix the cape?

Am I not fit to dance around with my cap,flying its tail,according to the rhythm of the music my body produces?

Am I not fit to blow the trumpets and order the drums to talk really loud for a job well done?

Oh yes,I am!

Even if I can't hear you loud and clear,

As such you do is mumble under your breath ,

The birds in the sky are singing a victory song,in harmony and excitement for me.

The trees of the field are clapping their hands and leaping for joy

The heavens are rejoicing on my behalf

The tails of horny dogs are swinging in satisfaction!

I have fought a good fight 

And I have finished gallantly!

 I wait today for the long anticipated handshake from the rector of L.S.M.U,

to congratulate and say to me,"you are now a university graduate,Dr.Rhoda!!"

Hey you! 

Don't drag nor be envious of anyone,be patient ,your time will soon come!

HAPPY MOTHER"S DAY!!!!!!!!

 By Lori Alexander (ALWAYS LEARNING)

Mothers Need Their Children

One of the early morning news programs was explaining all of the hormones that are released when a woman gives birth to a child to bond her to that child. Then as the mother nurses her baby, more hormones are released that bond the two together.

Fathers don't have these hormones. Grandparents don't have these hormones. Caregivers don't have these hormones. Only mothers towards their children. Mothers need to be with their children just as much as children need to be with their mothers. God created us that way and it is His way. It is unnatural for mothers not to raise their children.

No one can take the place of mothers no matter what feminists or our society tells you. You are replaceable in any job you may have but you are irreplaceable in the life of your children. Don't think of this as a negative as Satan would love you to think but think of it as a positive, something marvelous that only our loving Creator could create.

You, mothers, are the most important person in your child's life. As they bond to you and you bond to them, they will be able to bond to others much more easily as they walk through this life. Your worth is immeasurable in the life of your child. You are creating the next generation of godly offspring.

Never think your life is not important. Yes, it can get monotonous and difficult at times but you are storing your treasures in heaven, your children's lives. Nothing is more important than that. So this Mother's Day, remember your value and worth in your children's lives and be thankful for God's created order.

Happy Mothers Day!

Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.”

Proverbs 31:25-30

The C.I.C. syndrome

C.I.C. syndrome refers to Comparison Inferiority Complex syndrome!
Quotes from others on this;
Mark Twain;Comparison is the death of joy!
Shannon Alden;Personality begins where comparison leaves off!
Oprah;keep a gratitude journal so if C.I,C syndrome hits you,you can open and read it to see how far you have come!
I have read,understood, learnt from them,and i have my on take on this.
ME;When stories of others'success are being told,listen with your ears and be happy for them.Keep your eyes fixed on the road to yours and appreciate how far you have come.If you are tempted so much to take your eyes off the road to look at others",close your eyes and count your blessings!!!!!!!

A C.I.C syndrome patient;
There was a time she used to be the youngest in her class and she couldn't help but wonder what the rest of the class were doing with their lives,which ended each of them in the same class as she.
As she graduated and went into the university,she realized there were students way younger than her in the same class as she.She began to ponder and wonder what happened to her life that made her to be in the same class as them.She became sad,intimidated and gradually,C.I.C syndrome set in.

Now,she failed to realize she was living her life like everyone else did theirs,just not on the same path!Everyone has a different path to take in life.Not withstanding what speed or direction,all we need to do is to stay on track.You need not compare your life to others',otherwise,you lose focus,get discouraged,become impatient, too sure of yourself(pride),or even fall off the wagon!

Another instance, you never think of yourself as beautiful as others when you take a group picture.Stop taking group pictures until you have learnt to appreciate yourself.Discover your inner beauty and your outer charm.Stop comparing yourself to others,for while you don't like how you look,someone else is wishing to look like you.If you are hell-bent on making a change,let it be from you and because of you.If it is because of others,you will never think or feel you are good enough no matter how much you try.

My Cure;Close your eyes and count your blessings!!!!!!!!!!

THE MAN IN THE RED HOOD!!!!!!!!!

Crying,i packed my duffle bag with some stuffs that would last me on my journey to finding the guy in the red hood:When i was a little girl,i used to be hopeful but now my eyes are filled with sadness,bitterness and shattered life with a determination to find the guy in the red hood!
 I hopped into my truck and sped off on a journey which i am hoping  would give me closure.
 I reached out to the police once again for assistance,but the D.P.O warned me never to call that line again,and all the memories i carried within me kept me on track and with even more zest for truth and discovery!
After many miles of driving,i was finally at my destination,i moved into a motel to plot on how to trap the man in the red hood.        
 I laid on my back and watched the ceiling,drawing imaginary circles with the movement of my eyeballs!
I sighed,took a peep through the window and saw it was raining heavily.Despite the heavy downpour,i went outside and let the rain soak me till my clothes hugged my body and i started shivering with my teeth grinding against one another.I was standing there for a while,lost in my thoughts and suddenly,my eyes wandered across the road,there  laid an unconscious little girl with a boy clinging to her and in  his eyes were tears and helplessness.She was struck down by a hit and run driver.He called out to me.'Help,my sister is dying!'
 The next i remember,i was at the emergency section of a hospital,pacing and waiting for a doctor to say something to me.
'Are you miss Steven?', a young doctor asked.'Yes,is the little girl okay?,i asked.
'She's stable,and  a bit broken but she will make it out alive!'
I heaved a sigh of relief and went to see the girl.I kissed her forehead and was about leaving,when i sighted a familiar face,the boy with some stranger at the nurse"s counter.
'What is your name,sir please?",I overheard the nurse asking the stranger.
'I'm James Stanley"!Suddenly,the name rang a bell and the next i knew i was calling out the name.
"James Stanley????''
''Yes?'',he replied.
'I am Jennifer,Jennifer Wilson"
'Jen?oh my God!!'
We hugged,and he explained to me, the kids were his next-door-neighbor,presently living with their granny.
That moment made me a few steps closer to meeting the guy in the red hood.I got to know where James lived,and we started spending time together.One day,he asked,'what is wrong?,what happened to that little girl who was so hopeful,writing beautiful stories about how her life will be?"
Then i replied,with tears in my eyes,'That girl died'.
He shook his head and began to tell me his story.He was fighting for his life,waiting on both kidneys' transplant.However,he was still hopeful and full of life
With each passing day,i got closer and closer to James .And one day,i came face to face with him.I was all about revenge,but i found the truth about my late husband"s death,peace and closure.i found hope and love.
Hope saved my life.I started a journey to find revenge but in the end i experienced peace that surpassed human"s understanding.
 I am living and believing because life is so beautiful and magical,full of possibilities.
My friend helped me find what i lost long time ago,i did not feel alone anymore.Love is a powerful magical feeling and nothing can take that away.
Hope you learn from this story as i did!
I learnt there are other things more lasting,and more fulfilling than revenge!love conquers all things!

My flaws and all!

I maybe too shy that it causes me to frown all the time

I maybe too prim that it pisses my friends off

I maybe too far away from God that I find it difficult to call on him when I am in need;

I maybe too slow and sluggish that even the ground I walk on creaks in disapproval

I maybe always behind time that is so hard to rely on me sometimes,

but no one is perfect and no one has the right to judge!!

Each time I wake up into another morning and bask in its freshness,it means I have yet another chance to work on my flaws.

We get better with each passing day!

My lazy Saturday caution!

looking fab is a state of mind!!!!!!!!!

Rejection?what??

When it comes to your dreams and aspirations,
Say no to rejection!
In between small beginnings and great attained heights,will come criticism,scorn,mockery,despondency, frustrations and some other bad stuffs that will do no justice to your person.
Do not be negative through this period,for the worst enemy to you can be you!
Remember,a 'no' response is a step away from a "yes" response!

what defines us!

3P's that define us as a person!

Purpose;relationship with God.

Pride:our achievements in life(career)

Personality;our reactions to any situation,our love for others besides us(family,friends,people in the society )and the respect we have for ourselves!

Any other than these,is a complete waste,defining us as useless commodities !

Remember ,

You don't have to be abusive to be funny

You can be popular without wasting your time on trivial things.

You don't have to sell yourself short to be accepted by others.

You don't have to be less modest to be beautiful

You can be pleasant without lying your way through it

And,you can be successful without giving up your pride!!!!

The shore full of flowers!

The shore full of flowers

These are delicate spring flowers and their primeval dew,and purity are in the air.....

They are created for gorgeous women who have real lady inside.

Natural and deep colors,softly innocence,delicacy and gracefulness

lines create festive and carefree feelings,emphasizing femininity and charms of their owners.

Each flower well into its stalk,signifying the beauty imbedded in the heart of one strong woman!

Uncountable flowers indicate uncountable women vulnerable and beautiful in their own ways,splashing the society with their attractive colors and qualities.

All they wait for,is to be watered by that strong-abled man called the gardener.

Men take care of the women,for every single woman has the key to unlock the beauty that every society needs.

   Happy valentine's day in advance! 

THE FIRST LESSON I LEARNT THIS MONTH!!!!!!

Happy new month!!!!!!!!!
A month known for love;we all want to(including myself) be loved,appreciated and taken seriously at some point in our lives,but we tend to forget the confusion we put those who wish to do that for us!I learnt something today from a very resourceful man of God;about what we say we are, not matching  up with what we do,if you understand what i mean!
We have to define who we are not only with our lips but also with our feet,,,,both have to be in the same direction;
That way, we do not confuse ourselves and  others.People get to see us just the way we are without any form of confusion,the appreciation and respect following suit.
Be your own kind  of person and mean it,,,even the devil will be afraid of you!!!!!!

    HAPPY NEW MONTH once more,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,remain sweet and steady as always!!!!!!!
                                Love.Rhoda!!!!!

My pledge

i pledge to myself from this day onward,
to see the good in people always and not to judge their bad,
to learn from their mistakes ,and not follow their paths,
to respect their opinions even when i am in total opposition to them,
to love them and not to please them,
to help them and not be envious of them,
to appreciate what they have and not be intimidated by their acquisitions,
so help me God!!!!!!

A POEM by me ON LIFE;

Life is but a wave,
just when you think it is up,it goes down;
You can never be sure of its turnings;
Life never waits for you to be well,
it gives you so much pleasure and yet,
so much pain;
It gives you a whole lot of reasons to rejoice,
but stabs you in the back,causing you so much grief;
As life keeps moving,keep moving as well;
Don't try to take your life because life
did not treat you kind;
For your information;you are not a target,
life hates no one neither has no favorites!
Stop wasting time,life will not wait for you!
Even the tiniest moment of uncertainty
can cause you something in life;
Also,life is not in a hurry;it moves at its own pace!
You can only move ahead of people, not ahead of life,
Do not be hasty in decision making,
for most times,life decides after we must have made mistakes;
Life gives us multiple choices,yet,it does not wait too long for us to choose.
I often hear people exclaim with a sigh,
'Hmmm,that is life for you!!!!'
Whilst i agree to disagree with them,
i still believe it takes one who sees with the eye of an eagle,
to understand and prosper in the affairs of LIFE!!!!!!!!


                                                                          Inspired by my late uncle!!!!!!!!!!!

The power to do the impossible lies within you,happy new year!

Prayer for the1st January,2014!

Lord, may I never feel like the victim in any situation. May I keep in mind that you have given me the gift of choice and of freedom, and with your power, there is nothing impossible to do.

Attitude of Gratitude!

No matter what happened in the days past,

As long as you are alive to see this day,be thankful!

Be thankful for the difficult times,

during those times you grow;

Be thankful for each new challenge,

In this,your strength and character are built;

Be thankful for both the good and bad,

In this time,you find a reason to make a change;

Be thankful when your shoulders sag from tiredness,and your chest heave with weariness,

It means you've made a difference!

Be thankful for the little you've learnt today,

For it is part of the bigger you tomorrow;

Be thankful even when you've no reason at all to be thankful,

For bringing gratitude to your experiences in life turns even the most negative situations 

into positive outcomes!

I am thankful for each of you for reading,commenting and sharing the journey.

I wish you a happy 2014!

My Christmas card!

         

WORD!!!!!!!!

Get a life before you become a wife,
for that is the only way you can fit into the definition of a successful married woman!
A successful married woman is a woman who is able to balance her career with her marriage,
and capable of setting boundaries between these two!
Being married does not make you an achiever,it simply means you have yet another special
privilege in life, as a grown up to commit to something that is part of you.
 You do not have to struggle to get it,it will come naturally to you!
On the other hand, getting a life or making something meaningful out of life(career) can be addressed as an achievement, for you have put a lot of positive energy into life to be where you want to be!

                                                                                                                                        GOT INSPIRED BY BEYONCE!

My December letter💋

The "C" lesson

I bought a smart device worth a thousand dollars a year ago and now it's valued for six hundred dollars.

I bought a jacket worth a hundred dollars and in just a few months,its price went down as twenty five dollars.

Material things always have a value,and a tendency to fade away when new innovations come into life.

Stop hanging onto material things for no matter how much you cherish them,they will one day loose their value,yea,even the most precious and expensive as gold will not soothe your aching heart when you're down!

Cherish your respect as a man!

Cherish your virtue as a woman!

Cherish your love for family!

Cherish that friend who has always been there for you!

Cherish every morning you wake up to for its glow!

Cherish that special one who makes you smile!

Cherish your beliefs!

Cherish the fear of God for it's the beginning of wisdom!

For what shall it profit a man if he gains the whole world and loses his soul?

                                                                                            Я любою тысяч всякий💋