DEALING WITH PEOPLE!

PLAY ALONG WITH PEOPLE BUT,
ALWAYS TRY TO BE ONE OR MORE STEPS AHEAD OF THEM!
IF YOU KEEP PLAYING ALONG WITHOUT A STRATEGY TO FAVOR YOU,
YOU WILL END UP A LOSER AND A WEAK BUDDY!
IF YOU ARE ALWAYS STEPS AHEAD WITHOUT MIXING UP,
YOU WILL ALWAYS BE ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
#lesson i learnt today#

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!!!

• When you look in the mirror, sometimes you may think you don't look good. (Although everyone does.) Focus on the most beautiful part of your face. Either you have a cute nose, cute eyes, cute mouth, nice healthy skin, white teeth, or etc. ( Remember you are still beautiful no matter what.)
• Wear well-fitting, well-made clothes. Clothes that are too small or big and that you have to tug at don't make anyone feel good!
• Just because the opposite sex doesn't seem to pay attention to you, doesn't mean that you are not beautiful.
• When you look in the mirror, smile and stand up straighter.
• Be encouraging and helpful. Don't be mean or rude. Know that you are beautiful because God loves you and treasures you so so much!
• Face the crowd, stand out, make noise, speak in public speakings, all eyes will be on you. You'll never know what they're thinking; one just might be whispering to their neighbor and saying "What a beautiful, bold individual."
• Surround yourself with people who make you feel good.
• Remind yourself every day that you are important.
• Never compare yourself to others.
• Think of yourself as the winner at a beauty pageant

CHECKING IT OUT!

When more than two people comment on the same thing about you,even if you do not believe it because of the contents of your mind on that note,just check it out,you may find something rewarding about the things said!
They said i do not smile,although within me,I DO NOT have anything to frown about,probably it is just my face! well,i am checking it out now!!!!!!!!
 Check out that thing about you that has been commented on repeatedly!All the best!

oh by the way,check out the lyrics of this song!nobody has a perfect picture!

THEY HAVE CYSTIC FIBROSIS,YET THEY SING!DO NOT LET ANYBODY DISCOURAGE YOU NO MATTER WHAT YOUR SHORTCOMINGS ARE!I GOT THE MESSAGE,HAVE YOU?

CURBED FROM OLD SCHOOL,NEW BODY!,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,WELL,TOO MUCH OF EVERYTHING IS A DISEASE!

5 Steps To Looking 10 Years Younger

By Steve & Becky Holman

Did you know that once you hit 40 years of age, whether you're a man or a women, your body starts aging FASTER than normal? Studies have shown that without the proper nutrients and exercise, your body will age about 6 months EXTRA for every year that passes. Think about that! If you are 40, that means by the time you hit 44 you will LOOK and FEEL 48. And by the time you reach 60, you will LOOK and FEEL 70 YEARS OLD! We see this every day... just look around you.

Did you know that 90% of people over the age of 35 lose enough muscle every year to burn off an additional 4 pounds of body fat? That means you not only lose the only thing on your body that creates shape, tone, and strength—you also gain more fat every year, even if your calories stay the same.

Did you know that all of this is reversible at any age? That there are specific ways to move, eat, and think that tell your brain to STOP this rapid aging process... and even SLOW IT DOWN to the point where you're aging less than a year for every year? That means you can look younger at 40 than you do at 35... or if you're like Becky and I, younger at 50+ than we did at 40!

This is not fantasy talk. This does not require a boatload of anti-aging drugs, supplements, or gimmicks. And, this works for anyone, male or female, and works at any age. 35, 45, 55, 65, 75... you name it. The biology is exactly the same.

My years as editor-in-chief at Iron Man Magazine have allowed me to peer into the secret routines of the anti-aging experts. Over the years, both Becky and I have picked up SO many tips, tricks, and strategies that have allowed us to literally reverse the aging process, at least from a cellular level. That means our body's look, feel, and MOVE younger than our chronological age.

We've taught this System to countless men and women over the years, and it always begins with these 5 key principles you must apply in order to STOP the rapid onset of aging that's going on right now, reverse it, and begin "aging backwards" by restoring your body's natural youth hormones.

That said, we have to warn you: What you are about to hear may go against all the conventional diet and exercise advice you've been hearing. That's because the world has, to be utterly frank, gone soft! "Core training", hot yoga, spin classes, tai chí all of these are just fine, but they won't slow your aging, and they certainly will never shape your muscles or burn off stubborn body fat. No way!

These 5 steps reveal the things you absolutely MUST AVOID if you want to slow the aging process, reclaim your health, and achieve your ideal body.

What you need is a splash of cold water, a touch of Old School, and the honest truth. Sound good? Let's dive in!

Step 1: Forget Low-Fat Diets

Low fat everything has been the craze now for decades and look around. What has that wonderful bit of advice done for the bodies you see? We're fatter, sicker, and more addicted to sugar and carbs than any other time in history. And, we're passing these habits to our kids.

Fats are not to be feared – they're to be embraced. They do not make you fat; rather, they help your body regenerate your power hormones. Testosterone, the 'strength' hormone, for example, is the direct result ofcholesterol and dietary fat intake. That's right: "Cholesterol" isn't a dirty word! Your body needs dietary fat and cholesterol in order to produce ANY AND ALL vital hormones.

People on low fat diets look drawn, gaunt, and weak. They are often sick, sometimes to the point of literally breaking down. And, they can never just enjoy eating out. Every meal and every gram must be accounted for. Do you really think this will make you younger? Of course not... it will worry you to death if it doesn't kill you first!

Step 2: Stop Running in Circles

Gym classes can be fun, if you like sitting in one place and torturing yourself. But have you noticed how little people change their bodies in these classes? Sure, it's good "cardio", but cardiovascular conditioning can be gained with far less time and effort.

Treadmills, and any form of endurance training (especially running) does very little to help the age reversal process. Many times, these long-duration exercise bouts accelerate the aging process by increasing free radicals. These free radicals are scavengers that prey on your body's essential nutrients and tissues.

There's a smart way to exercise... we'll cover that in a minute. And, what's wonderful is that it takes you about ¼ the time of traditional workouts. We'll cover more details on the next page. 

Step 3: Stop Blaming Everything On How Old You Are

The guys to the left are not fat because they are old—they're fat becausethey eat, think, and move like a fat, old, dying person! Becky and I are both in our 50s—older than the guys in this photo—and I still sport a nice six-pack, and Becky transformed her body from the typical "middle age mom" to a slim, toned, and super-sexy woman who looks 10 years younger. (See the next page for photos!)

Listen: Your body doesn't own a clock. Studies have shown that men and women in their 90s were able to gain muscle tone in just a matter of weeks of simple weight training. I've personally seen men and women transform their physiques at literally all ages—25 to 95!

If you're around those naysayers who are constantly talking about growing old, all their aches and pains, and how life is just down hill after 40—LEAVE! Surround yourself with positive thinkers who absolutely crave a challenge. A challenge is what keeps you YOUNG, and the best challenge there is happens to be taking control of your health and body.

We'll show you HOW we do that on the next page.

Step 4: Avoid Chronic Dehydration

Water isn't just "good for you" — water burns fat. Water suppresses hunger. Water renews your skin. Just drinking 12 ounces of pure water every day can take a few years off your face in a matter of weeks. You'll also drop fat, have more energy, and save your kidneys and liver from chronic overwork.

When your kidneys are taxed from too little water, your liver has to take over. Now, get this: Your liver is your number one fat-burning organ. Do you REALLY want it processing liquids and toxins rather than BURNING FAT? No way, right? Well, grab a glass of water, and watch the mirror. Within a few weeks, the change to your face and body will be noticeable.

Step 5: Work Out LESS (Yes, Less)

If you don't work out at all, you're going to lose muscle tissue every year. That means you'll get fatter and flabbier each and every year with less shape and more sag. Is this what you desire? No way, right?

Well, the answer is old school resistance training. Here's the secret: hardly anyone is doing it right!

Becky and I have seen literally thousand of pro fitness athletes train over the years. The ones who looked the best — and that means looked the youngest, most toned, and had the least amount of unwanted fat — were the ones who left the gym while others were still warming up!

Over the past decade, Becky and I have developed a men and women's workout system that we call F4X Training System. This is a revolutionary way of combining four specific exercises done in literally a matter of minutes. That's ALL YOU NEED... And don't let anyone tell you otherwise!

That's right: We do not do endless cardio sessions (the F4X Training System is a great cardiovascular workout) and we do not spend an hour a day in the gym. We have a life, thank you. We have kids, and we value being both fit and real people at the same time. The F4X Training System was our personal breakthrough to achieving our ideal bodies, staying in tip-top shape with minimal time, and having a life outside a gym.

YESTERDAY IS GONE-MY LOGO!

Yesterday is gone!
No matter what you do,it can never come back!
Leave your regrets behind, what matters most is how well you act today,
so the mistakes of yesterday do not realize themselves Today!

SPARKLING OUR LIVES!: ROCK YOUR WORLD AND BE TIGERIFFIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

SPARKLING OUR LIVES!: ROCK YOUR WORLD AND BE TIGERIFFIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...: MY LESSON FOR TODAY!

ROCK YOUR WORLD AND BE TIGERIFFIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

MY LESSON FOR TODAY!

GOOD SLEEP AND OUR BRAINS!

Every single day of our lives,no matter our age,we can change our brains for the better by getting enough sleep!
  Foods that help you sleep;milk,almonds,banana!
   Foods that disturb your sleep especially at night;caffeine(chocolate),spicy or greasy food,sugar heavy treats.
   

DRINK A LOT OF WATER AND SPARKLE YOUR WAY TO THE TOP!

At the airport gate, on my way back to the U.S. (from Africa), the second security check confiscated the 3 liters of water I had just purchased in the main terminal. I cried. Literally, I cried. Clearly, the security agent didn’t understand exactly how much water I consume on a 17 hour flight (about 6 liters actually!). Water has always been my drink of choice. It just makes me feel good. I tell my clients to drink water if they have a craving, a headache, are constipated, hungry, etc. Water is so beneficial, so easy, so free yet so easily overlooked.  It’s really a no brainer (actually your brain is 90% water!!!). Your body is about 70% water, the majority of your blood and every cell in your body is composed of water. Therefore, you need water to function properly.

I don’t get headaches and don’t own Tylenol, Advil, etc. I believe it’s because I drink enough water. I’ve often been complimented on my clear, youthful skin. Again, I thank my water intake!

As with most things, the amount of water for each person is very individual, but if your pee isn’t mostly clear or you have any of the symptoms I mentioned above, you most likely aren’t getting enough H2O. Some suggest 8 (8 oz) glasses a day while others suggest take your body weight (in pounds), divide it in half and drink that many ounces. Listen to what your body needs.

If you don’t care much for the taste of... nothing, then you can add a squirt of lemon, a squeeze of lime, a few sprigs of fresh mint or a cucumber or orange slice. You can even be so bold as to add a few berries or watermelon. What ever gets you to drink it up. Cheers to your good health!

Top 10 Benefits of Drinking Water: Don't Medicate, Hydrate!

1. Increases Energy & Relieves Fatigue – Since your brain is mostly water, drinking it helps you think, focus and concentrate better and be more alert. As an added bonus, your energy levels are also boosted!

2. Promotes Weight Loss – Removes by-products of fat, reduces eating intake (by filling up your tummy if consumed prior to meals), reduces hunger (hello natural appetite suppressant!), raises your metabolism and has zero calories!

3. Flushes Out Toxins – Gets rid of waste through sweat and urination which reduces the risk of kidney stones and UTI’s (urinary tract infections).

4. Improves Skin Complexion – Moisturizes your skin, keeps it fresh, soft, glowing and smooth. Gets rid of wrinkles. It’s the best anti-aging treatment around!

5. Maintains Regularity – Aids in digestion as water is essential to digest your food and prevents constipation.

6. Boosts Immune System – A water guzzler is less likely to get sick. And who wouldn’t rather feel healthy the majority of the time? Drinking plenty of water helps fight against flu, cancer and other ailments like heart attacks.

7. Natural Headache Remedy – Helps relieve and prevent headaches (migraines & back pains too!) which are commonly caused by dehydration.

8. Prevents Cramps & Sprains - Proper hydration helps keep joints lubricated and muscles more elastic so joint pain is less likely.

9. Puts You in a Good Mood – When the body is functioning at its best, you will feel great and be happy!

10. Save Money! - Water is FREE! Even if you choose bottled/filtered water, it’s STILL cheaper than that high sugar and fat-filled latte!

       BY ABBY PHON

      FROM MIND  BODY GREEN

TAKE A PAUSE!

  Sometimes we are too busy and caught up in what we are doing,putting so much effort into these things that we do not know which way we are going.We need to pause for a second or two,look up to the blue sky,decide if where we are headed is the right or wrong way.
 Most of us get ourselves beaten or gravely disappointed when we realize all the effort we put into something proved abortive.The reason is we were moving on a roller-coaster,putting so much efforts but going about everything  the wrong way and yet we did not even notice that.

TAKE THEM BY SURPRISE!

     Listening to others should only make you more determined to accomplish something in your life.
Nevertheless,there are still people around you whom their jobs are to criticize,make mockery of your struggles,scorn your efforts and try the outsmarting games on you.
    They paint a picture of what they are saying that it seems so real up till the point of even discouraging you from realizing your dreams!Whatever the case maybe,listen and realize how insidious their words sound but do not pay attention to them,lest you get discouraged.
     Do not spell out everything concerning your plans to dream boosters,keep the juicy part to yourself and most importantly,take them by surprise with your success.
       Love,Rhoda!

HERE IS A SONG TO GET YOU THROUGH TODAY!

The lyrics are inspiring!

LET OUR VOICES BE HEARD!

    What makes the stories we tell unique and different  from other"s ,is when they are stories about us!We should not let our voices be drowned in the noise of other people's opinions.We should know what we want and go get it,whilst listening attentively to others yet standing our grounds.
       We were created by a supernatural being not by a man.We should not let anyone detect to us,but we should learn to take their pieces of advise and corrections when need be.Let us learn how to deal with difficult people without diminishing ourselves!Let our decisions on how we walk out of situations be ours to make.
        Let our voices be heard,for we do not know when some other person"s life can be affected by the impact of our voices!                                   

DON"T GIVE THEM THAT PLEASURE OF YOU FAILING!

Annabel grew up in a family of ten.There was no room for her to even have a decent education.She was a star but each time she tried to shine,her constantly drunk father who dealt mercilessly with her mother for not giving him a male offspring,will dim her lights shrinking her to the last bits.
   She lived the life of misery for as long as sixteen years,no education,no trade learning.All she did was join her mother in the farm after hawking some oranges in the morning.In the evenings,she sat outside their hut and counted the stars up in the sky.She would playfully include herself as one of the stars and somehow that usually gave her peace within and conviction that she was made for greatness and one day her statement would change.She never stopped dreaming and hoping.
     One day,as she was hawking some oranges with her usual bustle of joy,a car halted and beckoned on her.She rushed to the car as she suspected it was a prospective buyer of her oranges.
 "Good afternoon ma'm",she greeted and continued,"how many oranges do you want to buy,hmm,they are sweet and succulent,i can sell everything at a discount for you,just you ma'm!"she said and flashed her perfect white set of teeth as she beamed with smile!That stunned the woman.A village girl with a perfect dentition.She became intrigued and assessed her even more!Behind the unkempt village girl,laid a potential model,for Annabel possessed the main qualities aside for stride,charisma and a good command of English,which of course can be treated and corrected within six months of non-stop tutoring.She had the face,body and height to go places!Above all,the smile that can melt the world!The woman asked a few more questions about herself,leaving with her,a card with her phone number to call!
  When she went home to share the news,her father as usual scorned her and her mother said nothing.She was confused and nearly gave up the idea of ever becoming a model.As she was deliberating on calling the woman whom she met two days back,a voice within reminded her strongly on how bad she wanted her life"s statement to change.She became more determined and made the call.That call changed her life for good.It was not easy,for she could not walk,pose,nor communicate fluently.Her colleagues made mockery of her and some would even tell her she was not meant to be anything good in her life,but she never gave up!She worked even more harder and with time,she was unbeatable!She is now a successful and international model!
   Now your story might be similar to the first two paragraphs of this write-up or might be different when it comes to your own life setting but still has something to do with people saying you are not good enough or people being jealous of you because of the potentials in you!Do not let people detect what you will become nor shrink you.It will not be easy.it is not even easy for me either!Let us not allow what happens around us affect how we shine.For when we shine so bright,others would struggle to do same!
 

MOTIVATION - "Never Give Up , Reach For Your Dreams" Best Inspirational ...

CURBED THIS FROM LIVEBOLDANDBLOOM.COM...............36 WAYS OF BEING IRRESISTIBLY ATTRACTIVE!

Here are 36 actions you can take to make yourself irresistibly attractive:

1.  Develop your own personal operating system. Carve out and define your own reality, philosophy, values, and interests rather than automatically  accepting those of your family, peers, religion, or culture.

2.  Begin to let go of the need for validation. Don’t be motivated by the opinions or others or the desire for recognition. Be driven by what is important to you and what you value.

3.  Trust your instincts and allow for experimentation. Get to know yourself and discover what you enjoy and find exciting, even if you have to fail a few times.

4.  Accept others as they are. Begin letting go of judgments and criticism of others. Focus on people’s strengths rather than their faults. Learn to deal with difficult people without diminishing yourself.

5.  Really hear people. Go beyond just listening and understanding. Let people know that you really get them.

6.  Take care of unresolved matters in your life. Restore your integrity. Forgive and ask for forgiveness where necessary. Reclaim the energy you have given to these matters.

7.  Embrace a healthy lifestyle. Get some form of exercise daily. Eat healthy foods that support your body, not your emotions. Do this because you respect yourself, not to impress others.

8.  Cause things to happen. Don’t wait for them. Be a creator, an instigator, a collaborator. Share your enthusiasm.

9.  Show people you care. Don’t just talk about it. Show them in ways that are meaningful to them, not you.

10. Require the best of people. See them not only for who they are, but who they can be. Lovingly reflect that vision to them.

11. Ensure your own needs are met. Discern your primary needs, and communicate fully what is important and valuable to you  in your relationships. Don’t compromise these to keep peace or hang on.

12. Speak constructively. Use your words to uplift, inspire, motivate, and encourage. Don’t offer “constructive criticism” or subtle digs.

13. Laugh easily. Have a lightness about you. Take life less seriously and choose to find and create fun and joy.

14. Cease gossip. Choose not to talk about others in ways that are openly or subtlety critical. Don’t share information for the feeling of power or intrigue.

15. Make requests, not complaints. If you need something from someone, ask for it directly. Don’t whine or complain to them or others.

16. Handle situations fully. Kindly but clearly deal with negative issues as soon as possible. Don’t tolerate anything  if it causes resentments.

17. Be done with arguments. Smile and walk away until healthy communication is possible.

18. Offer help only when asked. Don’t assume that others want you to fix them or that you know best for them. Be available and give help only when asked.

19. Care deeply, but remain detached. Let others know you care deeply about them when they have problems, but don’t get caught up in their problems.

20. See with your heart, not your eyes. Look beyond superficiality when seeing someone. Financial status, appearance, notoriety, all mean nothing. Look for the authentic person inside.

21.  Don’t say yes when you mean no. If you mean no, your yes will be harnessed with resentment. Say yes only when your yes is given freely.

22. Let others know you are grateful. Tell them and show them that you feel blessed to have them in your life.

23. Never play the guilt card. Don’t try to manipulate or hurt someone by trying to make them feel bad about their choices, decisions, or actions.

24. Give more than is expected. Don’t over-commit, but freely give more than you promise.

25. Be inter-developmental in your relationships. Don’t be controlling, dependent or co-dependent. Create relationships that are mutually uplifting, reward, and satisfying.

26. Be a big person. Don’t try to take credit, diminish others, or hold back on praise. Offer acknowledgment and power when it is needed and deserved.

27. Be confident enough to be humble. Be able to laugh at yourself, acknowledge your flaws and failures, and accept that they don’t define you.

28. Be open to learning. Don’t flaunt your intelligence or superior knowledge. Recognize that there is always something to learn, even from those who appear “less than.”

29. Be more engaged than engaging. Show your sincere interest in others. Use the word “you” more than “I.” Listen intently and reflect back to others who they are.

30. Give gifts that others want. Not just gifts to impress or that are important to you.

31. Challenge yourself constantly. Don’t settle for mediocre. Don’t languish in past accomplishments. Keep moving forward and exude enthusiasm about possibilities and the actions to make them happen.

32. Detach from adrenaline. Simplify your life enough so you are not rushed, stressed, cluttered, or distracted. Allow yourself time and room to focus.

33. Embrace the incredible power of now. Nothing is more valuable than this moment. Make it the best moment you possibly can right now.

34. Don’t fight the flow. Don’t struggle against people or situations you can’t control. Move effortlessly in a different direction.

35. Keep evolving. Stay on a path of personal development and stay alert for opportunities for shifts and growth.

36. Accept that you won’t be attractive to everyone. As you evolve and become more attractive, fewer people will be attracted to you — but what an incredible group they are!

What other qualities or actions make people attractive to you? Please share your experiences!