Don"t lose yourself in the drama that happens around you everyday!

ON YOUR FEET!

Things not pretty happen to me but i am moving on,nothing will stop me!In my weakness,i am made strong!

  Let this be yours too!

Seeing the best in people and situations in life always make you have this awesome,positive energy!Try it,focus only on the best in people and situation.Check out how it will work out for you!
My results;It made me more appreciative of and less angry at life!

THE POWER OF CHOICE

Choice has the ability to make or mar you.
Choices we make can change us for the better or worse!
Life always gives us multiple choices but the most interesting and intense part is that moment when you are about to pick one out of the many.
Note this;even if you are given the liberty to choose as many options as you can or deem fit,it is never  possible to make two choices simultaneously,it is always one after the other!The moment you pick one,something great or small is already taking place!Be careful of what or whom you choose,for it can either be recipe for disaster or happiness!
Do you wait for a moment to understand the choices you make and why or you just go with the flow?

VICTORS OF CIRCUMSTANCES!!!!!!

   The first time i heard this phrase "victim of circumstance", I was eight years old.People usually used the phrase when they wanted any one to really understand how severely affected they were by an ordeal that happened in their various lives!It was a cry for pity,sympathy or gratitude to the Creator for not allowing them drown in those horrible situations!!!
    After years of hearing this phrase,taking it in and not doing anything about it,i finally analysed it today.It was saddening to realize that while many of us were fighting against being ,or suffering as victims of circumstances,it would have yielded much more if we had channeled our energy into fighting to become victors of circumstances!
 When the world throws the worst things at you,taunts you,ridicules you,frustrates you,delays your promotion and tries to change you,do not succumb neither allow the world to change you,rather with everything you have got,try to make changes in the world!!!Well,i have heard this one before but i made it sink deep today,creating a great impression on me!

TRY AND TRY!!!!!!!!

TOUGH TIMES NEVER LAST FOREVER
WHERE THERE IS PAIN DOES NOT MEAN YOU WOULD BE DOWN FOREVER
SO,YOU HAVE TO GET UP AND TRY AND TRY!!!!!!

My prayer for a brighter countenance!!!!!!

Please let my eyes be filled with sparkles and wonder!

Let me see the rising of the sun and the morning rain, 

Let me the taste the salt and feel the delight that comes with the morning dew!

Please let me be like a child who is bright and happy to see a brand new day,

happy the night is gone and time for play has come again!!!!!!!!

Let me bask in the light of this new day and let joy continuously fill my heart once again!!!!!!!

My prayer for a brighter countenance,shall they be answered,that i may feel whole again!!!!!!!!!

If you have been down and unhappy due to circumstances surrounding you,let this be your prayer and   

the one who never despises a broken spirit will lift you up again!!!!!

If you have nothing disturbing but just want an everyday bright countenance,let this be your prayer as it is mine too!!!

   Have a blessed day!!!!!

                                    

HAPPY MOTHERS" DAY

MY MOTHER!!!!!!!

Who sat and watched my infant head
When sleeping on my cradle bed,
And tears of sweet affection shed?
My Mother.


When pain and sickness made me cry,
Who gazed upon my heavy eye,
And wept for fear that I should die?
My Mother.

Who taught my infant lips to pray
And love God’s holy book and day,
And walk in wisdom’s pleasant way?
My Mother.

And can I ever cease to be
Affectionate and kind to thee,
Who wast so very kind to me,
My Mother?

Ah, no! the thought I cannot bear,
And if God please my life to spare
I hope I shall reward they care,
My Mother.

When thou art feeble, old and grey,
My healthy arm shall be thy stay,
And I will soothe thy pains away,
My Mother.   

By ANN TAYLOR

HERE IS MY OWN VERSION!!!!!!!!

When i was down with fever so strong,

She sat beside me asking God,

my soul to keep,

And there she stayed until the fever went,

My mother!!!!!

                                                                                                                                                                                                   

She taught me how to read and write,

How to dot my i"s and cross my t's

My health is sound because of her,

Am the woman i am today all because of,

My mother!!!!!!!!!!

The little girl i was yesterday,

she brushed my teeth and combed my hair,

got me dressed and prepared for school everyday,

little things she did for me,

now look so great and rewarding today,

My mother!!!!!

She tucked me into bed every night,

when i was little,

made me say my prayers everyday

when i grew up and left for boarding school

those prayers kept me warm and calm

I hope she lives to see and reap all the fruits of her labor

My mother!!!!!!

I used to be mad at her  when i was just a little girl,

i never understood why she did some of the things she did to me

She would scold me so hard that i will cry and question her maternity

Now i am older and i get it

She was keeping me from going astray

I will forever be grateful to you

My mother!!!!!!!!!

I pray to God our souls to keep,so when she is old and weak to care

That i will be there to cater to her needs.

And if in a million years my choice to make,

i will always choose you,

My mother!!!!!!!!

BY ME,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,RHODA PETER

   It is okay to question the preferences individuals attach to certain people or things,
but it is not okay to hate anyone or look at anyone with disdain for that reason.
For,at the end of the day,not withstanding the external forces" influence on the choices we make,
there is an inner craving within us which comes naturally and strongly,precedes all other forces,then causes us to make that choice!
   Choice is a thing of the mind,no matter what happens,do not let anything or anyone influence your decision making without any candid or acceptable reason!

Que sera sera(WHATEVER WILL BE WILL BE)

The future is not ours to see,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,do what you can and leave the worries for the future for the one who does that for us,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,for what will be will be!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
                  HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME AND TO THOSE WHO WERE LUCKY TO BE BORN THIS DAY!!!!!!!!!

written by wale!!!!!!

WHEN I BECAME A MAN

“When I became a man”……nothing really comes to mind when I try to stick that phrase with a particular moment. I do have moments in my childhood worth remembering but am not sure that if I was to write about any of them I will give it that heading. Unlike our friends on the other side, when posed with the question and they have no idea what to say, they have the safe answer of menarche….”my first menstruation” they say. Although I can’t hold anything against them, I find it a little boring (boo all you want, but that’s an argument for some other time). Men have no default moment when they became men. Am sure there is no time any man had walked to his mother asking, “Mummy what is this?” which was followed by a day-long lecture on tampons. However, not all women look to this time as the moment they attained womanhood. If this question appeared in a battle of the sexes, the only points that will be agreed as the moment any human attains maturity is the first time they placed themselves in danger of premature parenthood, and the other, when they awoke to a sense of responsibility.

In some parts the world, the moment a boy turns to a man is actually a planned event, especially in times and places where dressing half-naked wasn’t a sign of moral decadence or borderline crazy,  just your average Sunday wear and seeing a dinosaur wasn’t much of a surprise. Traditional rites like running naked through fire, hunting down a wild animal single-handedly or running an obstacle race with eggs in your mouth (ok……I got that one from the horrible remake of Conan the Barbarian), were the sort of challenges that had to be overcome to attain manhood. Personally, I don’t think any of these should count, not that am a hater for the old gritty ways, but I had my fair share “special moments”. I have been struck by lightning (true story), fallen into a crocodile pond and finished a meal fit for three men. All these before I reached the age of twelve, and I was still a brazen fool. Even if one were to set the bar as low as growing facial hair, then any hope of using that as the standard was well disproven by my brother, who though he had facial hair that the late Osama bin Laden (of horrific memory) would have been proud of and was still obviously as much an idiot as a vampire walking in broad daylight (please note: this is no reference to the twilight vampires, am talking good old vampire classics).

At this juncture, I believe anyone reading this is already tired of me shooting down everything that’s points to attaining manhood. But this has brought me to the fact that as men we all have to recognize those separate moments we got to feel like men for the first time. The moment when we first felt the weight of responsibility mixed with a sense of pride and humility to hide it, the first time we looked into the eyes of a girl a floated away, the first time we felt regret and admitted our flaws or the first time we took the blame for someone else’s flaw. I have felt these on a number of times, and although I can’t remember the first time I did, every moment makes me relive those feelings.

One of such moments happened to be a bus ride I shared with someone and it was quite an experience. As I sat there enjoying my conversation with this person, all I could feel was a sense of regret. I regretted that I was on a last bus ride on a city I was about to leave in less than three hours, and talking with someone that I would have really liked to have shared such conversations with at least once a week for the 4 years we both shared the city. It is in such moments of regret, I believe, that a man is made. Moments he wishes he could turn back time not for himself, but for another. And the moment he realizes he can’t, trudges on, swearing never to let such moments pass him by again. It is in such moments I believe that WE BECOME MEN.

The week I turned from a girl into a woman!

    For some of you,the day you became a woman was the day you saw your first period.Well,when I did see my first period,I was still a girl.I remember that week vividly when my perspective about life started changing,I was no longer that wimping girl who withdraws from everything in a feeble way but a woman who was ready to take charge of the situations in her life!It was seven years ago,I was 16 and still flipping at every single time my parents shouted at me!I was on a week's break from school(my most dreaded school,Madonna university,nigeria) and just before my mother left for work,she gave me a simple task of cleaning the living room and with an air of care free reluctantly agreed.She noticed the frown on my face but chose to ignore it as she was going to address it later.As i  was used to doing things at my own pace and time,I procrastinated doing her bidding.I went about doing my own trivial matters,not that I was self centered but because I was not under pressure doing those things knowing they were not important.I didn't know time had flown and it was already time for my mother to return from work.I called for the maid as she had returned from getting her end of term results from school,to assist me.She was tired and as she is not obliged to disobey,she grudgingly came to help.We were half way through cleaning when my mother's driver pulled up the driveway.I was calm because I did start cleaning,in essence, I didn't disobey her.I sent the maid away while I continued cleaning.
        My mother walked in on me cleaning,she studied me for two minutes silently, as she didn't respond when I greeted her.She got me confused all through the time.As she was walking to her room,she asked me to join her.I left what I was doing and followed her,still not getting why she asked for my presence in her room.I waited for her to undress,as she finished,she threw the clothes at me and instructed that I get them laundered that same day.i was stunned as that was her first time she told me to launder her clothes.On my way out ,she called my name,"Rhoda!".  I turned and she continued softly but with an edge,"I gave you a simple task of cleaning your parents' living room since morning and you failed."I was about to make excuses but she held up her hand in the air."You do not give excuses every time you do something wrong,you are no longer a kid.Now I want you to clean every nook and cranny of this house!"
Initially I thought she was joking until she took it upon herself to supervise me.What amazed me was the way i took everything,I did not argue with her,although at first I wanted to throw in my tantrums but I realized not everyday is Christmas and also if I do not start right away,she would have me work for my wrongdoings until the wee hours.Well,she meant business for me that day but after a while she was no longer angry but calmly told me she is trying to teach me many lessons and she hoped I would understand at the end.Surprisingly,I did,for she made me scrub,even the ones that refused to clean,I had to spend extra time on them.When I was done,she asked me to look at my handiwork,I did.I was no longer angry but greatly impressed.The house was clean already but I did something magical to it for it sparkled!She kindly squeezed my shoulders and with a sigh of achievement,she told me,"Rhodygirl,you can do anything,everything,however you want to,do them in time and stop making excuses!A year ago,I would have been so mad at mother and would not have understood why she made me clean the whole house,I was tired and numb but fulfilled for I actually did something!
     On Thursday of that week,my mother left the house,my father,my two siblings in my care.Up till that day, I had never been given such responsibility.My other two elder siblings were not around and the maid was paying a visit to her family in her home town,so I had to resume responsibilities as my mother traveled for a conference in another state!When she came back,she was so happy with me for I did even more than what she expected,I took care of the people and things she left in my custody.That Saturday,my parents made comments that opened my eyes to the fact that I was now responsible not only for me but for others and also that I was no longer a girl but a woman!My mother said to me,"I am proud of you,you handled everything like a young responsible woman that you've become!".My father said,"My little girl is now a woman,she can actually cook very well,almost more than her mother!"
        That got me grinning from ear to ear.For the fact that I learnt a lot from a hectic week made me confirm that I had become a woman!

`

love is bliss,love is war
hate is raw,hate is strong
times are hard,time is money
evil is cruelty,evil is deadly
life is fun,life is short
delay is dangerous,hard work is rewarding
ignorance is foolishness,knowledge is power
How you choose to live your life is non of my business
but make sure it works in your favor!!!!!!!!!

#IT TAKES BRILLIANCE CHARACTERIZED BY DEFIANCE AND NO SHORTAGE OF HARD WORK TO BE PHENOMENAL#

AVOID BAD ENERGY,LIFE IS TOO SHORT!!!!!!!

There are a lot of bad things happening day after day,
we hear the news everyday,
I received one today,it was not shocking but weakening and disturbing
I took it in for one minute and let it go after i learnt something.
My dear friends,life is too short!!!!!
We have only one life, not nine lives like Chloe.
No matter what happens to you daily,be grateful for the breathe you still have!!!!!!
Do not waste your time with bad energy,bad influence, for there is enough bad news already!
Try as much as possible to concentrate on things that will bring the best out of you each day!!!!!!!
           GOOD MORNING AND HAVE A LOVELY WEEK AHEAD OF YOU!!!

what doesn't kill you makes you stronger!!!!!!!

It is okay to cry,so as long as you smile in the middle and at the end of it.

Hey!what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,!!!!!!.

Never give up,for the fact that you cannot do it today does not mean you cannot do it tomorrow!!!!!!

anything can happen!!!!!

Always anticipate anything happening!
Never go out with a focus without you being fully prepared,
nor go out without focus nor an aim
Always go out prepared physically,spiritually,financially,socially,emotionally and mentally,
for whilst you are out there anything can happen.
Prepare for the best and worst situations!!!!!!!!

Also,never go into anything ,anyplace,any situation in life unprepared!!!!!!!!!